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Discussion in 'Fan Forum - Random Thoughts' started by Adam, Apr 14, 2017.

  1. Jerp Derp

    Jerp Derp Well-Known Member

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    Happened to me last October and I'm still bitter at the northern Colorado dating scene because of it. Good times. Sorry this happened to you. I know a guy in the mafia if you need me to call him :lazy:
     
  2. jukeboxgroove

    jukeboxgroove Well-Known Member

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    And hopefully a Voyager leak
     
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  3. FlakyCakes

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    Bruh, so a month or so ago my job made me the General Manager. And amongst that my spouse was (still is going through some terrible health issues) it only took a week and a half for me to bail and be like, help, this shit isn’t working, I’m way over my head please release me! Thankfully they understood and did.
     
  4. Juan Gris

    Juan Gris Well-Known Member

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    I picture your work environment is like the movie Waiting.

    Doing that by text is a shitty thing to do. Getting ghosted is maybe as bad.

    Happy Early Birth Derp, Jerp Derp!
     
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  5. robb

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    I picture your face environment is like the song Waiting.
     
  6. Juan Gris

    Juan Gris Well-Known Member

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    I resemble that remark.
     
  7. FLOWING MINDSPIN

    FLOWING MINDSPIN Well-Known Member

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    I'll take you up on that.
     
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  8. Kahlan

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    I think I am going to end up being contracted out to another company for 6+ months. I REALLY don't want to go because I REALLY like where I work but
    1. it would be a big inconvenience to send someone from the other department and they will cry about it more :rolleyes: ,
    2. it would look bad if I said "I just don't want to",
    3. one of my coworkers that I really like working with has already been there for several months so I'd have someone I could trust to work with, and
    4. it would be a chance to get some experience at another company without having to leave my company.
    Hmm, what to do?
     
  9. FLOWING MINDSPIN

    FLOWING MINDSPIN Well-Known Member

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    Background story

    We met on Twitter a few months ago because we follow the same band. We started talking online and it became a daily thing. By a month ago at this time it was long video chats every night. We met in person for the 1st time 2 weeks ago. The second time we met things took a serious turn. 2 days later it seemed like he was pulling away and I made the original post. I saw him one more time.

    I wasn't dumped yet that day. We went out Friday and spent the night together and everything seemed fine. Then semi-ghosting on Saturday and Sunday. Then no contact/replies on Monday. Dumped on Twitter messenger Tuesday night.. He said I was being too demanding and insecure by expecting him to respond. Deleted/blocked across all social media and by phone. No explanation. No answers. Just dropped. After talking every day sometimes for several hours for about 3 months.

    You know how when you get involved with somebody they become the main person you talk to? The one you go to when you have a shitty day. I can't explain this well. But he's the one I would turn to first if something really bad happened. And it did. He's the one that did it. Not even a phone call for some closure.

    This is why I would rather be alone forever. I've been through this before. We all have. But here we seemed to have a soulmate like connection. We would talk for hours and never run out of things to say. When we were together we would sit and just hold each other for a long time staring at each other. One time we ended up in tears. We never said anything but it was implied. How can someone go from that to complete shut out just like that?
     
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  10. skiing311

    skiing311 Well-Known Member

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    This sucks. I'm sorry. :(
     
  11. Terp

    Terp Well-Known Member

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    That sounds pretty fucked up. I'm sorry to hear things played out that way. Very shitty.

    I know it's hard. Best to move on and do what you can to refocus on other things.

    I hope you find someone soon who blows this last guy out of the water.
     
  12. The Great Danton

    The Great Danton Well-Known Member

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    Real talk?
     
  13. FLOWING MINDSPIN

    FLOWING MINDSPIN Well-Known Member

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    I just needed to vent. It's kind of anonymous on here.
     
  14. The Great Danton

    The Great Danton Well-Known Member

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    I mean, do you want some honesty?
     
  15. robb

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    I met a decently-long-term girlfriend on AOL back in the day, so I say this from a place of both experience and self-deprecation...

    This the "record scratch" moment in your story's movie trailer.
     
  16. FLOWING MINDSPIN

    FLOWING MINDSPIN Well-Known Member

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    Sure. I know it was a bad idea. I wasn't online trying to find a date. Casual conversation just turned into something eventually.
     
  17. The Great Danton

    The Great Danton Well-Known Member

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    Sounds like you took a dump with the door open on the honeymoon yo!...and moved way too fast.

    Here’s where I gathered that....

    I definitely never shared negativity that early in the relationship or had it shared with me...outside of the casual funny or interesting bad thing....and had it go anywhere.

    The point isn’t to be fake but you can’t unload your problems on someone that quick. It needs to be a gradual and slow unpacking to give the illusion we are sane lol.

    Do you have a good network of friends and family? My guess is no, or not near you and it keeps you from being able to organically vent to the people who love you so that you can begin to form healthy new relationships.

    You seem nice and I don’t mean any of this as an insult. It’s just that I get this lonely on multiple levels vibe and think healthy friendships would lead to a healthy fuck partner.

    He could definitely just be a huge douche or had a relationship come back up that he thought was over but I do stand by the advice even then.
     
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  18. speakeasy29

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    Waiting to board a flight at gate B11 and can’t help but chant B11, B, B, 11 in my head.
     
  19. The Great Danton

    The Great Danton Well-Known Member

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    God DAMMIT!
     
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  20. robb

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    how come
     
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